Relationships: Is It A Good Sign If Someone Is Extremely Attracted To Another Person?

While one could come across another person and not really experience anything, they could come across someone else and it could be as if their whole being has been hijacked. But, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that one will see this as a bad thing.

One will then have lost control, yet it will be seen as a sign that they have met someone who is right for them. Every part of their being is then going to be on green, telling them to move ahead.

An Analogy

Therefore, this scenario is likely to be very similar to how it would be if one went to look for a new car. There will be cars that don’t do it for them, cars that they like but are not enamoured with, and cars that they are strongly drawn to.

In will then be a good idea for them to buy the car that really draws them in, that’s if they have the means to do so. If they end up with a car that doesn’t do it for them, it is unlikely that they will enjoy having the car.

One Direction

So, just like being drawn to a car will tell them that the car is right for them, being strongly attracted to someone will tell them that the peons is right for them. As a result of this, one will want to do what they can to take things further.

Another thing that they may feel the need to do, after having met some like this, is to tell the people in their life about what has happened. They could end up telling these people that they have met someone who is perfect for them.

Emotionally Uplifted

No matter what their emotional state was like before they met this person, there is a strong chance that it has radically changed since that point in time. If they were not in a good place, now they will be, and, if they were in a good place, they will probably feel even better.

In fact, it could seem as though they have been taken to another planet or that the planet they live on is so much better. It then won’t be necessary for one to be with this person in order to feel better; they will only need to think about them.

The Next Step

Let’s say that the other person is also attracted to them and things do progress, one could start to think about the future. They might think about what it will be like to live with this person and to even start a family with them, for instance.

Now, as time passes, it could become clear that they are in a relationship with someone who is right for them. It was then a good thing that they responded in the way that they did, when they first came into contact with this person.

Another Scenario

At the same time, what one may find that this person is not good for them as time goes by. And, while this person might simply not be a good match; it could end up being far worse.

For example, they could end up coming to see that they are with someone who is verbally or physically abusive. One will then have been on one side of the emotional spectrum at the beginning, only to go to the other side of it as time has gone by.


If one felt so good at the beginning and just about every part of them was saying ‘go for it’, it can be hard for them to comprehend how this could have happened. One may end up taking place is that one will feel like a victim.

It can seem as though they were deceived and, as a result, it will be normal for them to feel as though they have been taken advantage of. Nonetheless, just because it seems as though they played no a part in what has occurred; this is unlikely to be so.

A Potential Red Flag

What it is likely to show is that they were simply unaware of what was going on, which is why they had no reason to question what was taking place and allowed themselves to be swept away by it all. Ergo, even though being strongly attracted to this person would have been seen as something positive, they were being deceived by what was taking place within them.

To understand what most likely took place at this stage of their life, it will be necessary take a closer look into why someone would be attracted to another person. It would be easy to believe that this is typically something that takes place when someone likes another person’s appearance and their personality.

A Deeper Look

These two elements play a part, that is clear, but they are surface levels factors. There are other elements that play an even bigger role in why one would be attracted to another person.

Below these surface level elements is the part that someone’s childhood has on who they are drawn to. Consciously, one can have the need to be with someone who will be a good match for them but, unconsciously, they will have the need to find someone who will allow them to resolve their early wounds.

Repetition Compulsion

Said another way, their conscious mind will want them to be happy, while their unconscious mind will want them to evolve. With this in mind, the reason one can feel a strong attraction to someone can be due to the fact that this person reminds them of one of their caregivers.

At a deeper level, part of them will want to replay what took place all those years ago and then to resolve it. Without realising it, they will be projecting what they didn’t get from their caregivers into another person and, as time passes, these positive projections will start to fade out, being replaced by negative projections and the other person’s true nature will start to fade in.


Taking this into account, if someone feels strongly attracted to someone, it might be a good idea for them to step back and to reflect. Doing this might save them a lot of pain in the long-term.

What this emphasises is that while ones conscious mind can forget about what happened in the past, their unconscious mind doesn’t forget. This part of them will reveal why they are attracted to certain people.

If one finds that they have the tendency to be attracted to the wrong people, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.